How to stay humble and sincere when youre doing really well

How to stay humble and sincere when youre doing really wellHow to stay humble and sincere when youre doing really wellYoure amazing and you know it. Youre at the top of your game, you look spectacular and your wardrobe is definitely Tim Gunn approved. Speaking of guns, youre in perfect shape, or pretty close to it.So, should you be strutting your stuff and telling everyone you know just how well youre doing? Maybe not.In the age of the humblebrag, it can be slightly complicated to know when or how to brag and when to keep your good nachrichten to yourself. Being humble is truly a positive trait, bragging is not, said Arden Clise an etiquette expert and author of Spinach in Your Bosss Teeth Essential Etiquette for Professional Success.Clise offered some tips on how to share your good news and accomplishments without braggingKeep it to yourself unless asked Dont offer your good news unless youre asked how you are or there is a relevant opening. In other words, dont crow about just how well youre doing and dont share with people who might not be happy about your success. If someone asks about how youre doing and seems to genuinely care about you and your professional or life journey, feel free to share your good news. If you feel like someone is just humoring you though, feel free to steer the conversation in a different direction.Just the facts, maam When you share your exciting update keep what you say low-key and dont talk ad nauseam about it said Clise. Save the juicy details for your mom, spouse or sister since theyre required by law to listen to every single detail no matter how boring or repetitive.Share the glory Clise reminds us to give credit to others for helping or recognizing you. People seem more inclined to listen to happy news if they hear the details of how you got to that better place.Make it a conversation not a declaration Clise said After sharing your accomplishment and getting a response, turn the conversation back to the other person. She of fered an example Things are really good for me right now. Im pretty excited that I was recently promoted to Vice President at my company. It will be a challenging job but Im lucky to have a really talented team working with me. Pause. How are things with you? Did you enjoy your trip to France? Allow them to brag about something theyve done so its not all about you.Let others brag for you Its much more powerful and impressive when you hold back and someone else shares your news, according to Clise. She reminds us though that this needs to happen organically, it cant be orchestrated. But if you spend time with people who appreciate and respect you, they will surely share the exciting news if you dont.A few other things to keep in mindYou dont have to always downplay your own success. If you find that your friends respond best to your tales of woe rather than success, it might be time to find better friends.Keep a brag list for yourself Sometimes its as important to remind yourself abo ut your worth as it is to share with others. Create a folder in your inbox to file emails with praise and career recognition. Make a short success list for yourself and reread it before your next presentation. Or read your CV and recognize all the amazing things that brought you to this place.Listen to the nice things people say Were taught not to brag and to downplay the nice things people say to us. What about if you actually allow yourself to accept praise and acknowledge that its well deserved? Sounds pretty revolutionary, but it might also encourage others to better recognize your worth.Praise others Everyone loves hearing about how talented and inspiring they are. It also makes them more inclined to listen when you share your own good news.